One of the things that I have struggled with the most in my life is a low self-confidence. I used to be quite the perfectionist (I’m in recovery now;). Perfectionism can create quite a bit of negative self-talk, which retrains your subconscious to constantly pick out the negative things about yourself. As a result, it can completely destroy your self-confidence and self-esteem. After all, how can you feel good about yourself if you are regularly pointing out all the ways in which you aren’t good enough?
The truth is, we can’t change this habit of picking ourselves apart or even feeling not good enough in one day. But…the good news is that we can change it over time. Like many of the tips I give you, the solution to this problem is all about consistent baby steps.
For the next 21 days, I challenge you to write in a journal (or notebook–whatever you prefer) three things that you value about yourself. They can be anything and everything–big or small. Here are some examples of things I value about myself to get you thinking:
1. I am a life-long learner and love to share what I learn with others so they can change their lives too.
2. I am willing to be vulnerable…especially when I know it will help someone else (even when it feels extremely uncomfortable to me).
3. I am a natural leader and do a really great job creating a safe space and establishing community.
These three things you value don’t have to be so deep either. After all, you’re going to be doing this for 21 days and will be coming up with at least 63 things you value about yourself. You can say that you value your big beautiful blue eyes or your amazing smile or your great sense of humor…whatever floats your boat.
If you are having a hard time thinking of things to add to your value list, think about what compliments you receive regularly (even the ones you tend to discount). The point of this exercise is to get you focusing on what you DO like about yourself. This will retrain your subconscious to shift from self-criticism to self-Love over time. It may not be the overnight shift you are looking for…but I promise you, it will produce results if you are consistent with it!
Feeling brave? Let me know three things you value about yourself! I’d Love to hear from you :)
Have a great week!