If you’re anything like my Vitality ladies, you may have a hard time saying “no” when people ask you to do something for them. Many of the women I work with love helping others, so much so that their dreams and desires often take a backseat. Helping others is great, but can lead to resentment over the long-term if you aren’t creating time for your own desires. Here are four ways to make saying “no”
Earlier this year, I was stuck in a rut in a major way. I felt like I had put so much time and energy into my business/spiritual growth and I had nothing left to give. I was exhausted, burnt out, and felt really directionless. Honestly, it was really uncomfortable going from being a really passionate person to being stuck in a rut over the course of a year.
Now, I’m grateful that it happened because I can relate to others on a whole new level.
Do you ever find yourself saying that you’re going to get started on your goals at some perfect time (that unfortunately never comes)? Are you everyone’s go-to person that rarely has the time required to create what you want in your life? If so, I think you’ll enjoy these 4 tips that will help you create time for anything!
Tip #1: Eliminate your all-or-nothing mentality – If you’re anything like my Vitality ladies,
As a recovering perfectionist, I have struggled a lot with confidence and worthiness. Growing up, I had terrible self-esteem (although I was pretty good at hiding it). I was constantly picking myself apart and never felt good enough. For most of my life, I told myself “when ___ (insert achievement here) happens, I’ll be happy and confident.” Many of my clients relate to this mentality.
Unfortunately, as I am sure you have found too,
Do you live a life where you are constantly telling yourself you’ll be happy when ____ (insert achievement here) happens? Have you ever noticed how nothing ever makes you permanently happy once you achieve it? This has been the story of my life and I wanted to share with you how I overcame the “I’ll be happy when mentality…” Let’s start with my story!
In May 2015, I moved across the country from Chicago to San Diego.
Many of the women who are attracted to Vitality spend a lot of their time and energy helping others. Much of their happiness comes from being able to give people what they need. Unfortunately, I often hear from my clients that they’re always there to help everyone…and no one is ever there for them. This can lead to feeling drained and unappreciated, which never feels good. I have really struggled with feeling like I was taken for granted by the people I helped,
This surprises most people because of what I do for work, but I am not a fan of New Year’s resolutions. I don’t know about you, but when I used to set New Year’s resolutions, I would always try to bite off more than I could chew. Not to mention…I’d never accomplish them. Looking back on it, it was because I tried to change too much too soon. When we do that, we set ourselves up for heartbreaking failure and lose confidence in ourselves and our ability to accomplish our goals.
If you’re anything like me or my clients, you LOVE self-help and personal development and devour anything that says it’s going to get you where you want to be. But have you ever wondered why there’s so much contradicting how-to advice out there? One book says to do it one way and another says to do it another way. It can be so confusing and frustrating when you’ve “tried it all” and nothing seems to be working.
If there is one thing I have struggled with in my life, it is unconditionally loving and accepting myself (even though I haven’t always realized it). I grew up having very low self-esteem and feeling like I was never good enough. Over the years, loving myself has gotten easier and easier. If you are struggling with this too, here are some steps that may make it easier for you, too:
Step 1: Find and work on your life purpose –
Have you ever heard of the documentary on manifesting called “The Secret”? The one that says that all you have to do is think about what you want, and it’ll magically appear? In ways, I’m happy that it exists, because it brought the idea of manifestation to millions of people. But I also think it sets us up for unrealistic expectations of manifesting, which can lead to people feeling like it’s just another snake oil salesman scam.