Do you feel stressed out all the time? If you answered “yes” to that question, know that you are not alone. Many of the empathic women I work with struggle with stress, even if they aren’t fully aware of it because it just seems like an everyday part of life. Why? Because empaths are highly attuned to the energy of those around them (often beginning at a very young age). This can cause stress in ways that we become accustom to over time. Doreen Virtue even taught me that empaths become addicted to the hormones that are released when we are stressed. It turns into a cycle where we are unconsciously creating stress in our lives to feed our body’s addiction to stress hormones. Pretty interesting, right?
While stress is a natural part of life, when we are living a high-stress lifestyle, our health can suffer in many ways. Over time, we can begin to develop adrenal fatigue (where our body’s ability to provide us energy is compromised). This can lead to burnout, anxiety, poor digestion, weight gain, and caffeine-dependency (I experienced all of these). I gained 40 pounds in 2 1/2 years, mostly from stress, which caused a pretty severe case of adrenal fatigue. Here are three steps you can take to help to alleviate stress (and weight gain) so you don’t end up where I was:
Step 1: Ground yourself.
One of the things that empaths can really struggle with is staying grounded. We have a tendency to be very heady and cerebral, which involves the upper chakras. If we aren’t actively trying to ground ourselves, this can create an imbalance in our energy. When we are ungrounded, we are more likely to be impacted by other people’s energies and can even begin unconsciously carrying their stress and anxiety for them. The stress we experience is also more likely to stick around when we are ungrounded because we aren’t taking the time to release our stress energy through our breath. The first step you want to take if you are struggling with stress is to ground yourself. This will make taking steps two and three much easier. You can ground yourself by doing anything physical that gets your breath going. You can even just take a quick 20-minute brisk walk if you’d like. My personal favorite form of grounding is restorative yoga. Some other ways to ground include getting outside in nature, running (this will ground you really quickly), dance, etc. Anything that gets you in your body and breathing will ground you…so get creative!
Step 2: Set healthy boundaries.
Many of the women that are attracted to Vitality have a tendency to be everything to everyone. Everyone knows they can count on them and they are the go-to person when it comes to dealing with other people’s problems. Many of the women I work with pride themselves on being this person and it is a huge part of their identity. Unfortunately, this can get very draining on our energy (I discuss this more during step three). A really quick way to create stress in our lives is to say “yes” when we really want to say “no” (and vice versa). The ability to set healthy boundaries is key if we want to alleviate unnecessary stress from our lives. Healthy boundaries may look like only answering client e-mails at specific times during the day or not allowing the same friend to vent to you about her awful relationship over and over. As an added bonus, when we set healthy boundaries, we also create healthy energetic boundaries. This means other people’s stress and anxiety energy is less likely to leak into our energy field.
Step 3: Eliminate energy vampires.
Energy vampires are the people and activities that leave us feeling depleted after interacting with them. This may be the friend that constantly complains about their life, but is never willing to listen to you. It could be a job where your boss never appreciates your efforts and is constantly nitpicking your work. When we have several energy vampires in our lives, it will seem as though we never have the energy to accomplish our desires. Don’t get overwhelmed eliminating all of your energy vampires at once. This practice is best done when you eliminate them one-by-one, as there often can be some resistance when you set boundaries with energy vampires. This also empowers you to gain confidence in your ability to set boundaries with these people. If you need coaching around eliminating energy vampires from your life, feel free to book a 1:1 session here.
I hope these three steps get you going in the right direction when it comes to releasing the stress from your life. Even though none of these steps are technically weight loss related, I have many clients who lose weight after taking them. Why? Because they aren’t releasing as many stress hormones and/or carrying the energetic weight of others (which can manifest as physical weight).
I’d love to hear in the comments below…which step are you going to commit to taking? By when?