Many of the women that are attracted to Vitality as a resource are clairsentient (their primary way of receiving intuitive guidance is through their feelings). Often times, being a “feeler” can cause us to disconnect from our bodies. As children, especially when we have no control over our environment, disconnecting from our bodies can be a defense mechanism.
For instance, I grew up with four brothers and sisters. There was so much energetic stimulation in my environment, it was extremely overwhelming to me as an empath. From a young age, I began disconnecting from my body by overeating. It felt too overwhelming to be present, so I would escape from my feelings with food. Escape mechanisms aren’t uncommon for empaths because we usually don’t know how to manage our energetic sensitivity. As children (and even into adulthood), we aren’t even aware it’s a thing. We can’t solve an issue we aren’t even aware exists. Here are three ways you can tell if you are disconnected from your body:
Way #1: Your body is acting up/having issues – Earlier this year, my body crashed in a major way. My muscles literally started catabolizing, I was exhausted, and I was steadily gaining weight (despite doing yoga every day and eating healthier). It honestly felt like my body was betraying me! Although I didn’t look at it in this way at the time, my body was trying to get my attention! I wasn’t listening because I wasn’t fully connected to it. As a result, it kept getting louder and louder. If your body is acting up and you can’t figure out why, this is a sign that you may be disconnected from it. Looking back on it, my body had been giving me signs to take care of it for years and I just wasn’t listening. It turned out that it breaking down was the only way it could get my attention. Remember, you don’t have to crash to choose to reconnect with your body. The sooner you start trying, the easier it’ll be connect with your body.
Way #2: At the end of the day, you participate in a numbing activity – I have always kept myself busy with work (whether it be schoolwork when I was younger or actual work as I got older). One of the patterns I used to have when I was younger was bingeing before bed. After the day would wind down and I had nothing to do, I’d plop in front of the couch. I’d argue with myself about whether or not I’d eat anything before bed. Within minutes, I’d usually be overeating. Although I didn’t know it at the time, this was a habit that was triggered when I wasn’t keeping myself busy (another technique we use to disconnect from ourselves). When I wasn’t busy, the feelings I had been stuffing down would come up to be dealt with. To disconnect from them (and my body), I’d eat and work. Your numbing activities may not be eating or working (in college, another one of my favorites was drinking), but they are all signs you are unconsciously choosing to disconnect from your body. Some other numbing activities include shopping, sex, drugs, TV, Facebook, and gambling.
Way #3: You have negative feelings toward your body – This one is super common for a lot of women because of the constant messages about beauty we are bombarded with by advertising and society. No matter what you look like, it can be really difficult to feel good about your body. I personally struggled with body image issues most of my life, so I know how difficult it can be to feel good about your body (no matter what it looks like). But when we make our body wrong, we simultaneously disconnect from it. Practice forgiving your body for “failing” you and then try to start appreciating her for all she does. I know this isn’t easy, and I would love to work with you 1:1 around this. Feel free to book a 1:1 session with me if you need help in this area.
If you resonated with these tips and are realizing that you are disconnected from your body, don’t make yourself wrong for it! You can start establishing a healthy relationship with your body today by simply noticing when you are choosing to numb out. That is a really easy first step to take to get started on this process.
Now, over to you…do you exhibit some of the signs that you are disconnected from your body? Do you think it has anything to do with your energetic sensitivity/clairsentience? I’d love to hear from you in the comments below!