Have you tried every diet and exercise program out there with no luck? Do you feel like you’re worse off than you were before you started dieting? Does it feel like you’re always going to struggle with a lack of willpower and self-control when it comes to your weight loss goals? If you answered “yes” to those questions, I definitely relate to you and I think you’ll get a lot out of this article.
For the first 22+ years of my life, I struggled with severe body image issues. The first time I can consciously remember feeling disgusted with how fat my legs were, I was just 10. Family members had told me from a very young age that I had “bad genes” and that I was always going to have to watch my weight. As a result, I started feeling like my body was defective at a very young age. This hopelessness created a very poor relationship with food and led to many failed dieting attempts, weight gain, and a very extreme binge-eating disorder (sometimes I’d put down 10,000 calories in a single day). I felt so imprisoned by how out of control I felt around food, I thought there was no way I’d ever be successful with my weight loss goals. The worst part was, it seemed like things were just getting worse the harder I tried to lose weight. Many of my clients relate to this.
After gaining 100 pounds (all while trying to lose weight), I finally had enough. I was at a crossroads. I was either going to figure this weight loss out, or not. But I wasn’t going to continue to live the miserable way I was living. I stopped obsessing over the scale and began focusing on healing myself emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. As a result, I began losing weight, my issues with food went away over time, and I finally learned how to healthfully lose weight and love myself. Here are three unexpected blocks I uncovered while on my weight loss journey so you can start your journey:
Block #1: How You Feel About Losing Weight – How you feel about losing weight determines your results, especially when it comes to long-term success. Chances are, if you had a relationship with weight loss like I did, you have so much resistance to it and find yourself procrastinating. This commonly looks like telling yourself you’re going to “start over” on the first of the month, Monday, or after some life event happens. When we have failed over and over again, planning to lose weight is often a painful reminder of how you’re incapable you are. It feels pretty terrible. And if you have a lot of negative energy around losing weight (shame, guilt, etc.), you’re not going to be able manifest long-term weight loss results. In order to be successful, you must feel good about your plan/what you have to do to lose weight. Even if this means doing less than those calorie-restrictive plans or skipping the workouts that burn a million calories, but simultaneously make you feel like you want to die (see block #2). You’re never going to be successful on a plan that is so difficult, you can’t keep up with it.
Block #2: What You Believe You Have To Do To Lose Weight – The dieting industry has a 95% fail rate, yet that industry is what has taught us the “requirements” to lose weight. I wasn’t successful with my weight loss goals until I truly embraced that I didn’t have to be perfect on my plan and that beating myself up just got me further off track. Fad diets teach us that we have to calorie restrict and burn a ton of calories in order to lose weight and that they’ll be some magical time when we reach our goal that we won’t have to do that anymore. I found that real weight loss happens when you steadily create a healthy lifestyle over time that is sustainable and doesn’t create stress in your life (which can ironically lead to more weight gain).
Block #3: Your Past Weight Loss Experiences – Our thoughts and beliefs create our reality, so if we’ve failed a million times…we’re naturally much less likely to believe in our ability to lose weight. When we don’t believe in ourselves, we won’t take action or we will procrastinate. This is another reason why steadily building your healthy lifestyle is so important. It empowers you to build new trust and a belief in yourself while you gain momentum. After momentum is built, it is much easier to know that those past “failures” weren’t because you “lacked” willpower and self-control…it’s because your program was faulty. During Vitality’s Losing Your First 10 Pounds program, I teach my clients how to diet detox so they can release all of the dense, heavy energy from their past dieting experiences. Once the old energy from those experiences is released, it is much easier to take action and create results that stick.
I hope these three unexpected blocks that I discovered on my weight loss journey help you on yours. If you’d like, you can book a 1:1 “How To Overcome Diet Procrastination” session with me here. For the first five people that book this intensive, I’m offering a $99 special that includes a 60-minute 1:1 session with me, an 80-minute webinar on overcoming diet procrastination (the first week of the Losing Your First 10 Pounds program), and a 14-page workbook. Normal pricing will be $167 after these spots are taken. I’d love to dive into this work deeper with you and help you change your mindset to help you lose weight and feel great! Again, you can sign-up here. Looking forward to working with you :)